Day 2: Affirming Your Self

You’ve made to it Day 2 of the Self-Esteem Challenge!

Yesterday, we talked about appreciating your strengths.

Today we’re going to build on that theme by reflecting on and affirming who you are. And that’s who you are today, right now, in this moment. You don’t need to be associated with past memories or future projections of your ‘self’ to be loved.

It’s important that you start to truly understand that you don’t need to be someone else, you need to know and love who you already are.

Fact: The majority of the self-help content focuses on self-improvement and only a small portion on true self-acceptance. It’s far more effective to focus 80% of your energy on acceptance, and 20% on improvement.

Myth: When we completely accept ourselves we will become complacent and stop trying to improve ourselves. 

The reality is that without all the internal criticism, we’re able to engage with the world openly and creatively, and self-improvement comes naturally.

Most people have a whole series of images in their minds about who they think they SHOULD be.

I should be smarter. I should be better looking. I should be funnier. Nicer. More comfortable around people. More patient. More laid back. This list goes on and on and on.

But this has to stop today. TODAY it’s time to affirm and accept who you are – NOT who you think you SHOULD be.

Heath L. Buckmaster said: “Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.”

Dalai Lama XIV said: “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”

It’s time to make peace with yourself. To affirm and accept who you are. To put aside ideas of who you should be and embrace this moment.

The word affirm comes from ad meaning ‘to’ and firmus meaning ‘strong’ – it means to make strong. Affirmations are therefore a way to strengthen the knowledge of who you are.

Today I want you to take 10 minutes to say these affirmations out loud, and repeatedly. Find a space where you are comfortable, take a couple of deep breaths, and say them with emotion, until you firmly believe them. You can experiment by stressing different words and see which combination truly changes how you feel. 

I have everything I need within myself.

I have a lot to celebrate about myself and my life.

I choose to stop apologising for being me.

I love the person that I am.

I accept myself unconditionally.

The only approval I’ll ever need is mine.

I accept others as they are and they, in turn, accept me as I am.

The more you affirm and accept yourself, the more you self-esteem will naturally increase.

Ok, remember to spend 10 minutes on the affirmations! Set a timer if you need to; no cutting out early!

Ben

P.S. Tomorrow we’re going to be looking at the most important factor behind your self-perception. When we look at people who have incredibly high confidence and those of us who struggle with self-esteem – this is the ONE area that is always different.

Good luck with the affirmations and I’ll see you tomorrow!

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